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HotHoose Helpline

Every month we will look at a problem that a young person has sent to the Hothoose Helpline.  If you’d like us to consider putting your problem here in the HOTHOOSE HELPLINE page please send it to our contact page.

All names will be changed and different members of the team will give advice to see if we can help.

This month’s problem is from Liam (aged 14)

I’ve just split up with a girl who I really loved.  Her name is Tina and we’ve been going out for over a year.  I thought things were okay but I guess I have been a bit stressed out recently. 

Since my Mum and Dad split up I’ve been feeling like I’m rubbish – I don’t know why.  I keep getting angry and taking it out on Tina.  We were arguing more and more and I said that she should just get lost if she didn’t want to be with me anymore.  

She told me it was over and left and now she won’t answer my texts or messages.  I tried talking to my mate about it but he kept slagging me off and telling me I should just get over it.  I don’t know what to do!

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What The Team Said...

NP – this is a tough problem Liam – I really feel for you because there’s a lot going on all at once.  Have you talked to anyone about how you’re feeling about your Mum and Dad splitting up?  Stuff like that can make people feel sad.  Feeling sad is REALLY painful so sometimes it turns into anger.  I think that’s maybe why you are getting angry and feeling ‘rubbish’ about yourself.  I think it would help you to talk to someone about your feelings and perhaps look at how you can increase your self-esteem and how you cope when you’re feeling low.  You could try to do healthy or relaxing things that make you feel good about yourself.  You have been with Tina for a long time and I think it would be worth talking to her if you can – going to see her or email/text her to say how you’ve been feeling and being honest about what you want.  Be kind to yourself.