Tell Us Your Problem

HotHoose Helpline

Every month we will look at a problem that a young person has sent to the Hothoose Helpline.  If you’d like us to consider putting your problem here in the HOTHOOSE HELPLINE page please send it to our contact page.

All names will be changed and different members of the team will give advice to see if we can help.

This month’s problem is from Sara (age 13)

“I’m having loads of trouble on Social Media with so called ‘friends’. People are mean and cruel and say really horrible things about some of my posts. I know I shouldn’t look and I should just ignore it, but sometimes I don’t want to switch my phone off in case I miss something and I keep on looking at it just to check what people are saying. Please help!”

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What The Team Said...

AJ – Hi Sara, thanks for sharing your problem with us. This can be a real worry and I really feel for you and how much this is affecting you. Sometimes it is very easy for people to tell you to ‘just ignore it’, but this can be easier said than done.

Sometimes when people say horrible things about us, we really believe them, this can affect our self-esteem and it can become a vicious cycle. It can help to talk this through with someone to help break this cycle and find ways to cope and build stronger, more positive beliefs about ourselves.

You can come and speak to one of the Health Opportunities Team workers at one of our drop ins

/or ask one of your Teachers to refer you for 1 to 1 support.

If you are worried you are being bullied or experiencing a hate crime, you can show the posts to a trusted Teacher or Parent/Carer and get more support on dealing with this. If people are saying anything racist or homophobic, this is against the law and action can be taken by the Police.

You can hide, block and unfriend people online, and you can choose who you want to have on your social media. Think about it this way, if you’re not really friends with them in every day life, are you really friends with them online?

Whenever you can, surround yourself with positive people who make you feel happy and good about yourself. Think of all the things that make you feel good and activities you can do that make you feel better, like listening to music, going for a walk in the sunshine, or watching your favourite TV shows.

Be kind to yourself, you are worth it!