What are Feelings?
Did you know that feelings and emotions are two different things? They do often get used in the same way. Simply, feelings are what we physically feel – like energetic, happy or calm. - and emotions are in your mind – such as fear, sadness or joy.
Positive feelings are feeling that leave us feeling happy, satisfied, confident and like we are going to win. We can also feel caring, understanding and love.
Positive feelings make us feel really good inside. They can make us feel energetic, up for trying something new and to help us to achieve. Feeling this way can make life feel easier and help improve relationships with others.
Try to include as many positive and happy moments in your day as possible. This could be going for a walk, or taking time to think of all the nice things that have happened to you this week, listening to music or even saying to yourself in a mirror, “today is going to be a good day”.
Trying to avoid negative feelings and negative people can be quiet tricky. If you’re angry, try and take a few moments before reacting. If someone annoys you, take a breath and try to think of one of your happy moments.
Bottled up feelings
If you bottle up your feelings you might feel alone and like no-one understands. But there will be other people who can understand and this could help to ‘take the weight off’.
Bottling up your feelings is not a good long-term way of dealing with them. Sometimes you may have to express yourself and get it off your chest so that you feel better later on. This might be difficult at the time. We know that certain situations are easier than others. But keeping all your feelings bottled up will have a negative effect on your emotional and physical health.
- Being honest with yourself. Let others know your feelings about the situation.
- Name those feelings. How you feel at that moment can be expressed by putting a name to what you’re feeling.
- Be prepared. If you think that you will be heading into a situation where you will have lots of feeling and emotions- talk it over with someone before-hand and go in ready and hopefully calmer and able to deal with your feelings.
- There are always two sides to the story. It’s not always easy and can take years of practice, but thinking about where the other person is coming from and how they are feeling can help your situation.
- Breath deep. Being able to breathe deeply can help you clear your head, which helps you think clearer and make better decisions. Breath in for 5 seconds, hold for 5, then release for 5 seconds.